You're allowed to question it all.
Therapy that helps you sort out what's actually yours from what was only ever handed to you.
INTERN THERAPIST FOR DECONSTRUCTION IN BOISE, IDAHO
You spent years wondering why things that seemed easy for everyone else took everything out of you and you (or others) built an explanation for it.
Too sensitive. Not trying hard enough. Just difficult. Then you got a diagnosis, or you started to suspect one, and suddenly none of those old explanations fit anymore. This isn't about getting a label and moving on. It's about grieving the years you spent believing the wrong story about yourself, and building a truer one in its place.
Our work together will focus on the messy middles of life, including (but not limited to) late-diagnosed neurodivergence, mother-daughter relationships, intimate partner betrayal trauma, and how (or if) your faith fits into it all.
Deconstruction doesn't mean you've lost your faith. It often means you're finally taking it seriously enough to ask real questions of it.
A lot of what you believe about yourself, God, and your own worth was handed to you before you had any say in it: by people, churches, and systems that were doing the best they could with an incomplete picture. That picture doesn't have to be the final one.
I don't believe your job is to land on the "correct" side of belief or unbelief by a certain deadline. I believe healing means giving yourself permission to actually examine what you were taught — and keep, release, or rebuild whatever is true for you now.
Nice to meet you!
I’m Emme (she/her) and my name is pronounced “em.” I'm a counseling intern working under the close supervision of a licensed clinician, and I understand late diagnosis from the inside, not just from a textbook.
I specialize in the tender, complicated spaces:
Faith deconstruction and the grief, freedom, and disorientation that come with it
Mother-daughter relationships that carry generations of unspoken patterns
Intimate partner betrayal that shakes the foundation of who we thought we were
I'm not guiding you toward an understanding of yourself I've only studied. I'm still figuring mine out too, in real time, right alongside you.
How we’ll work together
Think less clinical distance, more sitting across from one another doing the hard and holy work together. We'll look inward and backward at where your beliefs actually came from, so you can move forward holding what's true for you instead of what you were simply taught not to question. I'm committed to depth-oriented and somatic therapy because your mind, body, and nervous system often hold what your words haven't caught up to yet.
I believe in both evidence-based practice and the mystery of the sacred. You're allowed to grieve a faith that shaped you and still choose to walk away from parts of it. Healing is possible, and I'd be honored to walk alongside you as you find out what that looks like for your story.
This work may be a good fit for you if…
You're questioning beliefs you were taught not to question, and you're tired of pretending you're not
You want space to grieve the community, certainty, or identity you may be losing in this process
You're not looking for someone to hand you a new set of answers, just a place to actually sit with the questions
You want depth and honesty in this work, not a checklist, and not a therapist who's only read about this from the outside
I'm not asking you to do anything I haven't done myself. I've lived my own version of pulling faith apart to see what's actually mine, and I'm still finding my way through it. If that's the kind of company you want on this journey, I'd be honored to join you.
sonder
NOUN
the feeling one has on realizing that every other individual one sees has a life as full and real as one’s own, in which they are the central character and others, including oneself, have secondary or insignificant roles:
In a state of sonder, each of us is at once a hero, a supporting cast member, and an extra in overlapping stories.
Source: Dictionary.com
You don't have to land somewhere before you start this work.
You just have to be willing to look honestly at what you were handed, and find out what's actually true for you — whatever that ends up looking like.
I'd be honored to help you get there.